Forever alone. It doesn’t just describe the popular meme comic of an ugly nerd who is ignored by all his friends, fails at talking to girls, and is always, well, alone. It describes the lonely life of Nakeisha Lyon, who is a more attractive nerd who does not go out much, epically fails at talking to boys, and spends all her time writing articles for the school newspaper. Though she is “forever alone”, to her being single is okay.
Single, according to Dictionary.com, means only one in number or pertaining to the unmarried state. At Seminole, most students are unmarried, and only one in number. And it’s okay. Being single is awesome, if one looks at it in the right perspective.
For single freshmen, this is their first year of high school. Freshmen are learning the ropes of high school; what classes they can sleep in, how often to study, what the best lunch line is, and which classes they should take next year.
Honestly, what’s the point of dating as a freshman? Some freshmen are too immature to handle a relationship. Though it’s great to develop experience and practice relationship-wise, from past experiences, looking back at relationships as a freshmen are not worth it. New friends turn into boyfriends or girlfriends, then turn into enemies, and then turn into people that only smile in one’s direction in hallways to be nice.
The first year of high school should be drama free while unsuccessful relationships can add hardship.
Sophomore and junior year are always interesting for relationships. As puberty is taking its course in students’ bodies and hormones start kicking and screaming, relationships start to develop between classmates. Though students are becoming more mature, they still lack some characteristics needed in relationships such as compassion, integrity, and emotional connection. Students have a hard time expressing their emotions, often act selfish, and lie. On top of that, high school is a busy time for the students who do not slack off. Take junior Dane Taylor, “A high school student can definitely be in a relationship if they can commit to it, but for me, right now I’m juggling AP courses with two extracurricular activities. I barely have time to watch television, much less be in a relationship.”
And let’s not forget the seniors. It’s the last year of high school, and honestly, unless one and his/her other half already has everything mapped out for their companionship for the years ahead, relationships are not practical. Most students are moving away to different cities, plan on going to different colleges, and will be doing different things. Getting emotionally involved with someone at the end of high school is not a good idea. And most times, long distance relationships are unsuccessful.
So forget relationships, because there is life after high school, and plenty of fish out there, swimming in the sea of life. It’s likely that one of them will swim past and ask for a date.
Being in a relationship has many positive aspects to it; however, partnerships come with problems. Worries about cheating, honesty, jealousy, whether the person actual has genuine feelings for the other, and the constant struggle to make sure one pleases the other. High school relationships can be successful, but, no matter what grade one is in, is it really worth all the stress to be with someone that in a few days, weeks, months, or years from now, one will probably not even remember or talk to?
Some students find luck and use their skills in flirting, kissing, hugging, and cuddling quite more often than the rest of the population. Though many students want to find someone to build a relationship with, others who want a companionship with another person have a hard time. Many students are not happy being single. Teens feel that they are missing something when they are not in a relationship.
But, if happiness is what someone really wants, when did being in a relationship become the answer?
Not being in a relationship has been shunned by the up and coming generation, who feel as though every moderately attractive person they see, they should date. “People who are single should be patient and find someone who truly cares about who you are and what you believe in,” said senior Katelyn Polis, “Don’t jump into a relationship with someone as soon as you find out they like you. Get to know them first.”
This generation does not believe in love, but rather the sensations of lust. And not wanting to put effort into something like a relationship reflects in the lack of motivation and hard work the same teens put into school, work, family, friendships, and everything else.
Single is okay. One does not need someone else to be happy. Though it takes time to realize, wouldn’t one rather be single and happy, than in a relationship and miserable?
Go out, have fun, find a hobby, stay busy, get a job, and love and live life. Relationships will come when the time is right. And high school, for most students, is not the right time. As a student, one grows, is trying to find one’s identity, and is experiencing many things in life for the first time. Be happy and forget being in a relationship. For now.